My parents, my privilege

 Hi hi hi, howdy errbody? You good, you good?

K, in this occasion I would like to talk about what so called privilege. Yuhuu, this word got famous these past few years. Yep, even before that, I had no idea about what privilege was. According to Oxford dictionary, privilege is a special right or advantage that a particular person or group of people has. Yes, special right or advantage. Note that.

Have you ever imagined being a son/daughter of a CEO or a higher-up? Got spoiled since birth, a silver spoon kid, have you ever imagined being the one? Have you ever wished you were the one? Honestly I have. Everything seems easy with money, right? People say money can't buy happiness, but guys, let's be realistic, money makes life easier indeed. However, we couldn't choose to whom we'll be a daughter/son of, it's already written down. And so is the life that we live right now. That's what we call fate, nah? 

As we get older, as we experience various life events in life, as we taste much pains, I think it's pretty normal if everyone wants a privilege to ease their life. Privilege can be from parents (wealth, good education, connection, etc etc), privilege of being pretty and others. For those who are just like me, maybe life feels sucks without any privilege. We're just so powerless.

Yes, that's what I used to think as well, that I had no privilege at all. But after taking some time to think, now I realize that having supportive parents count as a privilege as well.

First of all, my parents are not well educated. My dad only finished elementary school, while my mom only finished her junior high school. It's pretty understandable since they had to support their parents to earn money for the whole family due to the fact that they're the oldest child in their family. Yet I'm beyond grateful that despite the low education attainment they have, they're open minded enough. They let me chose what path I want to take, even since I was 13 when I was about to decide which junior high school to get in. Really they just let me choose. Not that they didn't care, but they trusted me. They thought I was the one who gonna get the stuffs done, I was the one who gonna deal with all the problems that might happen so they just let me decide in the first place so that it won't be too much burdens for me.

I am super grateful that I was born as a daughter of my parents. 

My dad whom I call Bapak is indeed a genius for me. He was so smart and artsy. Yo, one example that got me stunned was Bapak could explain me well how rain could happen. I mean, bro, he just attained elementary school. We often had a conversation to discuss about almost everything. Ah yeah, he also gave me lots of insights about people behavior and how I should behave as a human being. He repeatedly told me two things everytime he had a chance to talk, which are to be down to earth and never be arrogant. Furthermore, from Bapak I learned that "being old doesn't mean that someone is always right, people make mistakes despite the age, so when doing wrong, admit it, apologize and do better". It is very remarkable life lesson for me. And in term of arts, woooowww I don't even know where should I begin to mention the artsy stuffs he made his entire life. Also, not to forget that Bapak was the first person to teach me how to draw realistically. I know I aint as good as him, but I am so thankful that he taught me patiently. Above all, Bapak was very thoughtful. Even if he didn't dictate me what to do, he made sure that he always gave input for me even for little things. As Bapak had a good taste of fashion and stuff so he often gave his opinion regarding my outfit or my hairstyle. Yeah, as simple as that. Besides, he always encouraged me to learn more despite the boundaries that occured. He always convinced me the economic unstableness aint the limit, aint the burden. He always believed in "there's a will, there's a way" and the law of attraction. And it really worked, just like a mantra. Well, talking about how I adore and thankful for my Bapak got me overwhelmed. It's just too many good memories and lessons. Right now I am too stunned to write it down one by one.

And as for my mom, my only guardian angel that is left now, she's just as good as my Bapak. Even though she doesn't understand a lot of things due to the low education, she still tries to always trust and support me. She worked hard and gave anything possible. Last but not least, her prayers are my ultimate weapons as she always prays for me to be lucky in every path that I take. It works like miracles. I remember one fine quote, "if you've got your mother's prayers, you got everything, and more". I couldn't agree more for this one.

Not too long ago, I had a conversation with my brother, we agreed that we're very lucky as children as our parents have been very supportive. Even minutes before his leaving (re: death), my dad assured me to take the test to pursue my dream and not to worry about anything else. We shared the same dream, and we even already drew the future scenarios which is of course joyful. Even the last sentence he said was "Bapak will be happy when you're successful and happy". Maaaan, isn't that the sweetest thing everrrrr? The fact my happiness is above everything, is my parents' top priority, got me huhuhu wanna cry. I am so lucky to have them, so lucky to be their daughter. 

Yeah, now I am fully awakened. I realize that being the daughter of my parents is A PRIVILEGE, that having them as my parents is A HUGE PRIVILEGE that is priceless and precious. 

Thank you, Mami, Bapak.

Hopefully Allah will grant you heaven in return. 

I love you both to the infinity.

Your beloved daughter,

Aya 💙🦋