29 Values You Could Gain From Reading THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A FUCK by Mark Manson

Hello, there! It's been a while. I hope you guys are doing well.

Today, as I start to kick off my week, I want to make a post regarding the book which I just finished reading it last night hehehehe. Yup, its The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson. Yasssss, the orange book that so hyped the last two years.


So this occasion, I won't give any review yet summary. Why? Because review will be based on somebody's preference, I might like it, yet you might not, vice versa. That's why I will just write down some sentences (or maybe you name it quotes) that I love the most from this book. These all are so awakening and relatable. Here we goooo.

1. Ironically, this fixation on positive -- on what's better, what's superior -- only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. AFTER ALL, NO TRULY HAPPY PERSON FEELS THE NEED TO STAND IN FRONT OF A MIRROR AND RECITE THAT SHE'S HAPPY. SHE JUST IS.
2. The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it's is giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
3. The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience -- the backwards law --.
4. Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
5. What does it mean by the subtle are of not giving a fuck?
• Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. The point isn't to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.
• To not giving a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity. Because if you don't find that meaningful something, your fucks will be given to meaningless and frivolous causes.
• Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.
6. After all, the greatest truths in life are usually the most unpleasant to hear.
7. And this pain, as much as we hate it, is useful. Pain is what teaches us what to pay attention to when we're young or careless. It helps show us what's good for us versus what's bad for us. It helps us understand and adhere to our own limitations.
8. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.
9. What does make life doesn't feel simple? Denial and Victim Mentality.
10. Decision making based on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty much always sucks. You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions? Three year-old kids. And dogs.
11. YOU CAN'T WIN IF YOU DON'T PLAY.
12. The self awareness onion; There are multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back, the more likely you're going to start crying at inappropiate times.
• First layer: a simple understanding of one's emotion
• Second layer: an ability to ask why we feel certain emotions
• Third layer: our personal values
• why do I consider this to be success/failure?
• how am I choosing to measure myself?
• by what standard am I judging myself and everyone around me?
13. The more uncomfortable the answer, the more likely it is to be true.
14. Shitty values consist of:
• pleasure; pleasure is not the cause of happiness; rather, it is the effect. If you get the other stuff right (the other values and metrics), then pleasure will naturally occur as a by product.
• materiall success; when people measure themselves not by their behavior, but the status symbols they're able to collect, then not only are they shallow, but they're probably asshole as well.
• always being right
• staying positive
15. Defining good and bad values. 
• Good values
• reality-based
• socially constructive
• immediate and controllable
• Bad values
• superstitious
• socially destructive
• not immediate or controllable
16. We don't always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.
17. The point is, we are always choosing, whether we recognize it or not. Always.
18. You're already choosing, in every moment of every day, what to give a fuck about, so change is as simple as choosing to give a fuck about something else. It is really that simple. It's just not easy.
19. We shouldn't seek to find the ultimate "right" answer for ourselves, but rather, we should seek to chip away at the ways that we're wrong today so that we can be a little less wrong tomorrow.
20. It's the backwards law again: the more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain you will feel. But the converse is true as well: the more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don't know. 
21. There's a little that's unique or special about your problems. That's why letting go is so liberating.
22. As a general rule, we're all the world's worst observers of ourselves.
23. That's simply reality: if it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself.
24. Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you've failed at something.
25. DO SOMETHING. START SIMPLE. Action is always within reach. And with simply doing something as your only metric for success -- well, then even failure pushes you forward.
26. Honesty is a natural human craving. But part of having honesty in our lives is becoming comfortable with saying and hearing the word "no".
27. Acts of love are valid only if they're performed without conditions or expectations.
28. But more is not always better. In fact, the opposite is true. We are actually often happier with less.
29. Yet, in a bizarre, backward way, death is the light by which the shadow of all of life's meaning is measured.

That's what I could write. If there's any of you want to read the book yourself, and if it's possible, you may read mine. I'll lend it to you, just lemme know. 

Xoxo.

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