Loving Living Plastic

I am loving 'living plastic'. Yes, I am. So what?

"Plastic" may be the word which is spout by the haters to define a Kpop idol. I could understand that kind of stereotype since Korea (in this case I only talk about South Korea) is recently well-known on plastic surgery and most of its people do it. As far as I know from several news and articles, ya people in Korea have super high expectations regarding appearance (body shape, skin color, face, etc), especially for the artists or idols or public figures. It might be eye-catching and enchanting to see people with no flaws, at all, yet for those who are pushed, it might be the opposite. Burden and sorrow might be the end. Don't forget, besides its glamorous and blink-blink life of Korean look on TV and internet, this country has a record that it's placed as the second country with the greatest number of suicide. Sure, the causes might be various, but the insecurity or being afraid to fail to meet people expectation might be one of the causes. The question is, who's to blame? 

What I wanna discuss here may be pointless, I don't have any specific issue, I just wanna deliver my thoughts regarding to the current news after the tragedy of Kim Jonghyun (Jonghyun SHINee). Mmmm in my perspective, as a Kpoper since I was on grade 9 (it's already 9 years and still counting), Korea has panda side as well, black and white, so are the Koreans. I mean like, yeah, maybe they look perfect from outside, but who knows the inside? Who knows what kind struggle they've been trough? Who knows the way they survive and remain acting like "all is well and all I do is for my fans"? Who knows how hard, difficult and complicated condition they suffered in? We never know. We only know just like "how it's served", what appeared on tv, on internet, on article, on news, on group, etc. May be we somehow forget even Dispatch can't capture every second of Kpop Idol's life. We never put our feet on somebody else's shoes, we never lived a life somebody else's life. Don't act or talk like you know everything, and never judge something/somebody you never really know.

Speaking of Jonghyun's case, all I can say is, I am sending my deepest condolence to his family. I don't say the way he ended his life was right (suicide is always wrong), but who's to blame? I don't deserve to say that he had no patience nor faith in God, no. I mean like, I don't know how long he had suffered and fought, how hard his situation was, how cruel the world treated him. I don't know, I don't. That's why I don't have a right to blame him, or even to make his death as a joke. I mean, maybe his life was short (or in fancy sentence it's written 'too young to die'), but he had done so many great things in life back then. How many smiles he had put on people face, how many loving memories he made with his fans, how much his wealth he had donated for good cause, the way he made his parents proud, even in the end of his life, he donated his organs in order to help others. If I want to compare my life with his, I mean my contribution for other's happiness, may be it's like a bottle of water (for me) and south China sea (for him). It doesn't mean that I aint grateful for my life, I just wanna emphasize that he had done something wonderful for sooooo many people (whether he knew it personally or not, even through lense) despite his suicide, while I still have homework to make my surrounding happy because of my existence. 

Also, about the depression, so many people already wrote about depression, that it aint a joke. It's harmful, it really is. Without being bullied nor receiving other's terrifying words, people still can experience depression. It's a fight inside a living soul, may be. I can't say much since I am not a psycologist, that's just what I heard about depression. However, as a human with hope "we still have sense of humanity", let's treat people the way we want to be treated. Listen to others like we want to be listened to. Somehow when in trouble, we only want to be listened, not to be blamed. I mean, we'll be thankful if we get the solution, but if it's not possible, it's okay just to listen to us carefully. Showing empathy in a good way, I mean like, rather that saying "don't act like you have the most difficult life" please say "you're not alone, we all experience it, but we will survive, we will overcome it, we're all here to cheer you up, don't be afraid". Ya somehow the way we talk matters so much. I personally am still trying to act and talk that way, that my purpose of having this post was also as my reminder that I should act the way I wrote.

Last, but not least. Writing this doesn't mean I don't care of Palestine and it's genocide tragedy that has been years, no. InsyaAllah, I'll make one later, after reading some sources as reference. InsyaAllah, my prayers always with them who fight against genocide and those who are being the victims. 

Perspective. Somebody said. Yes, it's just my perspective.

Xx.